What’s the deal with someone who is terrified of speaking?
Truth is: Speaking may be the very scariest thing for a human to do, according to some research about how difficult speaking is.
According to Jerry Seinfeld ~ People prefer dying over speaking at the funeral.
How can you get over your fear of speaking? Are there techniques which can be learned? YES!
This past week we had our first Speaker club events, on Wednesday and Saturday, where I sat with aspiring speakers, and those who are looking to improve their communication skills, for everything from job interviews, to Zoom calls with their teams, to being a better leader with their kids.
I was thrilled to see a room full of friends supporting our efforts, including a fabulous speaker (7dailyhabits.com) named Laura Porreca who drove all the way up from Las Vegas, 6-hours one-way, to attend our SLC, UT event! She gave me perhaps one of the kindest testimonials I’ve ever received, calling my teaching of speaking, “Groundbreaking compared to what she’d seen offered anywhere”. Awesome!
I appreciate those who are supporting the Speaker Club, and we will have another 2 free events this week, Wednesday, Nov. 17 from 1-2:30 PM, and Saturday, Nov. 20 from 8-9:30 AM. If you are in town, or willing to travel 6 hours to join us, it would be great to have you. Please message me for more information if you are interested.
I have shared many livestreams over the past few weeks, on Facebook and LinkedIn, leading up to Speaker Club, and this one is regarding having watched a terrified speaker stand up and give one of the worst speeches I’ve ever suffered through as she read the entire talk without looking up once.
In the video I suggest a few ideas for the terrified speaker:
- When you’re scared to speak, remember one main tip: The Audience actually WANTS you to succeed. We are not interested in watching a trainwreck…we are cheering you on to be amazing on our behalf and to avoid your embarrassment!
- Prepare, practice, and be BRAVE!
- Come to our Club and learn all the rest!
The Promise to improve ourselves is a significant and challenging one, yet a practice of discipline that will move the needle of our success.
Only those who are interested in “experiential learning” will take the plunge into a Speaker club environment, where you will prepare and share aspects of your speaking you strive to improve, doing so in front of peers who are cheering you on.
Equally, I will dissect your abilities, along with the greatness of speakers like John Maxwell we will watch on video, pausing and discussing every move and what it means. There is no training like this.
Final thoughts:
What habits and rituals have you Promised yourself to do consistently that have paid off?
I’ll start with some of mine: Waking Up at or before 5 AM, Daily Exercise and Focused Meals.
Ever since I took control of this aspect of my life, all other things have fallen into place, even when storms rage around me, as I am able to keep my mental health and emotional well-being intact because of my personal health Promise.
When we make and keep The Promise To The One, we are able to Keep The Promise To Everyone.
Living the Promise changes your life.
What’s your Promise?
Please share below!
~ Jason Hewlett
Husband, Father, Writer, Hiker, Coach
- Speaker Hall of Fame * Award-Winning Entertainer * Promise Legacy Coach
- World’s First & Only Keynote Speaker utilizing entertainment, musical impressions, and comedy to teach the Power of Keeping Your Promise
- Founder of the Bunless Triple Patty Baconator Club (available only at Wendy’s drive-thru, along with heart monitor cuff test mandatory before ordering)
Author of “The Promise To The One”
14 Responses
I woke up this morning looking forward to reading your blog post, and it wasn’t there! My first thought was that I hoped you and your family were okay. Did something bad happen? Seriously, you never miss posting even when you are away from home or even out of the country. I’m so glad nothing bad happened. I always enjoy reading your posts, they are inspiring. I am a better person because of you. Keep up the good work my friend.
Evan, I literally sat there at church wondering if you would have noticed or would say anything. You have been such a support and encourager I was interested to see what you’d say. It made me laugh to see your reaction to my “experiment”. Thank you for constantly inspiring me, and grateful to be your friend.
Jason, I too expected your email this morning. I wondered if you were ok, having technical issues, or you cut me off your list! This was a valuable lesson about our expectations and and keeping promises. Thank you!
Thank you Cindy! Interesting stuff, isn’t it? Thank you for noticing and for this great comment.
I felt the same way. I was worried about you because I know you don’t like to break a promise. I am working to maintain my promise to myself. Thanks for the inspiration.
Haha! Thank you Ginny! Love this comment.
I woke up yesterday getting ready to go to urgent care to see if I had contracted pneumonia. My beloved had been diagnosed with and a friend did some research and learned it can be contagious< I don't have pneumonia and have been sleeping most of yesterday and today. Truly I cannot believe that I feel so sick with a cough and a cold. I've got stuff to do and am also feeling grateful it is not pneumonia or covid.
Thanks for the prayers.
Many blessings, Louise
Oh my gosh! I hope you’re ok and feeling better today. Get well and prayers sent to the heavens for you my friend.
Dearest Raptor Man ~ Author of Signature Moves [which are] The Promise. 🙂
While I enjoy your posts – and probably read every one of them – I did not notice that it wasn’t here Sunday at 0’dark thirty. I typically read the Sunday’s post(s) on Monday anyway.
Let’s make a deal – a promise between us – you and me – Raptor Man and Amateur Raptor Man:
You write whenever you dang well want to, and I’ll read them whenever I dang well please.
Yes, I will read them all, most likely, but I’ll never consider that you broke any unspoken promise just because it didn’t get here at its normal time.
HOWEVER…
I do get your point, and I love your message, and I love you!
ox
Thomas
Love you too, my man! You’re hilarious.
You will never know the impact you have made upon my life. Your weekly emails got me through some dark days during the pandemic. Bless you and your family forever!
Oh my goodness, thank you for this very thoughtful message. I am grateful to know this, and hope you know you are loved with each word written.
Hi there, friend! I also noticed! I get up to listen to my Relief Society lesson early Sunday mornings and usually read your email at that time. For a minute, I wondered where you were! I knew you’d come through though…Jason Hewlett never breaks a promise! Thanks for being an example of complete reliability. The world needs to take some lessons from The Promise!
You’e so sweet my friend! Thank you for this uplifting and kind message! Give your family our love. We miss the lake with you.