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My wife, Tami, is my favorite person. This Halloween she decided to go all out and theme us as The 3 Amigos. Above is the post from Facebook, which after not even 24 hours has garnered a lot of attention & admiration.
Rightly so, she really is brilliant, and came up with this idea last minute.
I remember in years past how I used to complain about her craft projects, over-the-top parties thrown, whether creating costumes for the school play or decorating the teacher’s door, and I complained not because of the money but the time spent to create and execute just seemed too much.
In other words, I was trying to make her stop doing what she does best, and I love her more than anyone in my life!
When it comes to your family at home, do you encourage the talents of your spouse, partner, children, parents, roommate, those you live with? Or do you gripe each time you hear a sound, “Yelp, there he is again, in that darn garage, tinkering about, never finishing a dang thing, another invention that will go no where!” Yes, you’re probably right, angry person, but WHAT IF you decided to encourage what they do and give them permission to be awesome at it? I bet things would change in your home and life.
Imagine that I was trying to clamp down on my talented wife, her skillset, as you look at the funny amazing costumes she created. Why would I do that? Because I was selfish. I wanted her to spend every minute with me. She wanted to create unforgettable memories and custom traditions that are her true Signature Moves. Thank goodness I got out of the way and now stand back and applaud her awesomeness! She continues to expand her abilities and talents, and it’s beautiful.
Now, think about this, if I tried to shut down my wife’s potential, who is my favorite person, let’s take a look at your Family at Work. Are we encouraging, believing in, and standing in amazement of those we work with? Admiring their Signature Moves, those things they do so well? Or, because of ego, or just plain old dislike for a co-worker, do we do all we can to sabotage the team’s efforts?
This happens often, it’s a trickle effect in offices where HR didn’t respond the way that was expected, which offended the CFO, management starts spreading rumors, front desk receptionist is answering calls in a Friday the 13th voice, and now everyone’s wondering where their check is!
Ok, maybe it’s not like that, but you know what I mean.
Think of your co-workers as family members (I know, tough to think of it that way with some, but just go with me for a minute). Imagine if, instead of seeing the person seated next to you as an expendable co-worker, or a barrier to your promotion aspirations, or someone you hope gets food poisoning at lunch because we all know Panda’s beef & broccoli just looks a little off, and instead saw them as a family member?
Change the word from WORK TEAM to WORK FAMILY and companies change, success is achieved at a much higher level. When we promise to encourage the talents of others everyone succeeds at a much higher level.
Case in point: Golden State Warriors. Former 2-time MVP Stephen Curry could come down the court and shoot every time and no one would necessarily get mad, because he’d make it, but they wouldn’t win championships. Instead, Coach Steve Kerr created a masterful “WE ARE FAMILY” mentality and culture on the “team” and everyone must touch the ball. Pretty soon they have 4 All-Stars, the best role players in the league, because they pass – a lot. Everyone knows their responsibility, what’s expected of them, and hit their spots when given the chance.
And they aren’t going to stop winning Championships anytime soon. The “PASS FIRST” mentality is applicable across the board in businesses and homes worldwide.
Let’s give the person next to us the opportunity to shine, embrace their talents, give them accolades, and post about their brilliance online. It really feels good and immediately improves career satisfaction, trust in the family, and an understanding that the spoken and unspoken promises (those that are expected but we rarely say out loud) seem to align brilliantly.
We just need to get out of the way and enjoy the success of others.
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~ jason
Jason Hewlett, CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), CPAE Speaker Hall of Fame, is a Keynote Speaker for the largest corporate events in the world. His primary message, The Promise, is essential for Leadership, Management, Sales, Marketing, Direct-Sales Companies, and is a combination of engagement and entertainment meets inspiration. Jason has even received standing ovations from IT guys. He has been acknowledged as life-changing by Conference Attendees, C-Level Executives and Hollywood Elite. jasonhewlett.com
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9 Responses
Well said Jason!!!! I totally agree with praising those for their talents instead of holding them back or getting upset! Tami is unbelievable! And the way she throws AMAZING parties… Creates things . Crafts things. Makes things. Cooks amazing things. Her eye for beauty. I’m in awe of her constantly.. she is the best!!!
Love this post! Thank you for sharing
Well said to you Heather. Thank you for the encouragement you’ve always shown Tami, it makes her feel amazing. Love you
Once again, Jason, a powerful message and reminder of what is really important.
Thank you.
Louise
Thank you as always Louise for your engagement on my blog and your encouragement.
Thanks babe!
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Would you say you had a plethora of children?
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Hi my sweet boy. Thank you for reading and posting on my blog. I love and miss you. Have a great day!