The Promise of Congruence On & Off Stage


When I was a kid I met my hero, a basketball player who is in the Hall of Fame now, and at the time was the epitome of all I wanted to be in life.

I collected his jerseys, wore the same brand shoes as him (before that was a thing), and collected every basketball card ever made about him.

The time came to meet my hero.  He was there to sign our memorabilia.

I went up to him, asked if he would be willing to sign my stuff…

And he refused.

He said that he was under contract not to sign anything I had with me and all he could sign was a little red ball that looked pathetic.

He signed it, handed it to me, and I was brushed aside.

Devastated, I continued to look up to him, but not with the same luster I imagined would exist in meeting my hero.


Consistency meets Congruence on and off stage is keeping the Promise to your Audience.

As a kid I was expecting this star basketball player to be as cool, amazing, and nice off stage as he seemed on it.

But that wasn’t the case.

It set in motion my thought of how important this principle is, even when I was a little boy.


When you work for a company, you essentially represent the company wherever you go, on or off the clock.

When you perform or speak a certain way, people expect you to live the message, not just talk the talk.

It doesn’t mean you have to be everyone’s best friend, or even like the fact that people come to expect something from you, but it is your responsibility to be who you say you are at the office and outside the office, on or off stage.


I have struggled with this principle myself.  I’m not 100% hilarious all the time, or I’d explode and no one would ever have married me.

However, I am a naturally amusing person, and can have different levels of energy.

Off stage, I’m about a 2 or 3 funny level.  On stage, I’m a level 10 energy of funny.

Point is, it’s consistent and congruent with the lessons performed and taught.

Recently this image was captured while I was at the airport by someone who had just heard me speak and recognized me as I went through the very “fun and exciting” TSA experience – here is what I posted on Facebook about it –


I didn’t realize anyone was taking a picture, I was just messing around with the TSA agent, whom I could tell wouldn’t arrest me for having some fun with him because he seemed in a good mood.

I don’t recommend everyone do this with a TSA agent, but I got away with it that day because things just worked out.  Even had a MEME created!  hahaha!



How fascinating it was that the people in my Audience who had just seen me speak about The Promise on and off stage, how we keep it, then saw me living the message at a random place to drive the point home.   (My favorite is the look on the girl’s face in the yellow shirt, clearly she is terrified of me)

Me being hilarious doesn’t happen perhaps all the time, but I try to do my best to be the guy off stage that I am on stage.

Keeping my Promise to The Audience, who for me is anyone, anywhere, at anytime, has shifted the way I live me life.

What is The Promise you keep on and off your Stage?

And of course, if a kid comes up to me and asks for an autograph, yes, I’ll definitely sign whatever the heck he/she wants.


~ jason hewlett

Jason Hewlett, CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), CPAE Speaker Hall of Fame, is a Keynote Speaker for the largest corporate events in the world. His primary message, The Promise, is essential for Leadership, Management, Sales, Marketing, Direct-Sales Companies, and is a combination of engagement and entertainment meets inspiration.  Jason has even received standing ovations from IT guys.  He has been acknowledged as life-changing by Conference Attendees, C-Level Executives and Hollywood Elite.

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14 thoughts on “The Promise of Congruence On & Off Stage”

  1. Chuck Baumann

    No matter how old I become and no matter how successful I think I am, I always remember where I have come from. Over my 67 years of life, I have watched how my life changed from a very modest beginning where our family lived in the garage of my grandmothers house to the custom home my wife and I built in our upscale neighborhood that reflects all the hard work of a lifetime. Never once have I become so impressed with myself that I forgot where I have come from. I am always thankful for what I have and never regretful for what I don’t have. Your news letter today has caused me to reflect on not only my life but on those of others that I have met along the way. We all get up each morning and put on our clothes the same way…. the only thing that makes us special or unique is how we project ourselves to the rest of the world. You continue to show us the way to be the best that we can be and to never take ourselves too seriously

  2. Jason – we all love who you are and are thankful that we know you. Even though years have passed since we had you at our international convention you are still the favorite of all our members. Thanks for being part of our ohana.

    Nicki Keohohou, CEO

    1. Love you back Nicki and thank you for believing in me way back when and still even today 🙂 Give Saf and fam my best.

  3. Jason, you are awesome! you make me consider life and how complicated we make it, but it doesn’t have to be. Thanks for being YOU! this post may seem so simple but, honestly your messages aren’t rocket science they are just wholesome messages that are just the plain truth. I admire you!

    1. Thank you very much for the comment. They are exactly that – simple truths – if only it were so simple to keep them this world would be a better place.

  4. I saw you speak at a convention in 2012 and your message so resonated with me that I HAD to meet you. A lot of people followed you to the front of the room and I figured I would have the opportunity and left out the back. To my surprise that’s where you were and we talked about your message and ultimately how I ended up subscribed to your website, still checking in five years later. I think that mostly because you were just as cool, funny, and kind off stage as you were on. Way to practice what you preach! Thank you. Your message was deeply relatable to me, I even had connections with Randy Boothe. It was amazing, entertaining, and so helpful.

    1. WOW Claire! What a story! Thank you for sharing, thank you for being willing to hang with me all these years later and through all I’ve changed in my career. Awesome. I wish you the best.

  5. I always admire the celebrities that I meet who are genuine and engaging as they are on stage as they are in person. Thank you for being an example of that promise.

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