25 Year Anniversary: The Promise of Marriage

June 14, 2001, I accomplished the most successful moment of my life: Tami Spenst married me.

All that I have done in life comes back to this culminating point and I don’t take it for granted ever.

What many who are planning their special union seem to so often forget is that the wedding day is just that: one fine day.

Marriage is what we focus on, make as right as possible, and keep promises that are daily with consistent actions that lead to greater trust, happiness, and fulfillment.

The ups and downs have been well documented, and continue to surprise us as we go along. And yet, that has also been such a grand aspect of the adventure! The richness of life is in the struggle, joy is found in sadness and triumph, faith in God, and believing in us as a partnership.

Once the kids came along, that just continued to seal the deal. How could I be so fortunate to have the ideal Wife who suddenly becomes the ultimate Mother of this caliber? How do our children continue to be such good humans? I blame it on their Mother.

I sit in awe at the blessings of my life, and ours together.

Here are a few of the simple things that have helped us along the way:

• I gently smack her butt every time we pass each other in any setting
• She acts like I shouldn’t, but still smiles anyway
• I do what she says, because she’s right
• She supports my journey and career even when my decisions don’t make logical sense
• I clean the kitchen as fast as she can mess it up
• She knows exactly how my eggs need to be made every day depending on my mood
• I do the dishes multiple times per day and enjoy it
• She creates memories for our family
• I figure out how to pay for them
• She tells me I look handsome, even when I don’t think she’s right
• I tell her she looks beautiful because she can’t help it
• She comes with me to every gig that is at a location we can’t miss experiencing together
• I do all I can to get gigs at places we want to see
• She laughs every day
• I do all I can to make her laugh every day
• She has lived through every variation of success and lack of it one can imagine
• I am grateful every day she’s still here
• We pray daily together and with the family
• We attend Church every week and serve in our callings
• We eat as a family at the dinner table without our phones present
• We go on at least one date per week, even if that means just to the backyard
• We do all we can to support our children’s aspirations and dreams

These are all little promises that add up.

I’m hopeful for another 25 years after this one, and more than that, too.

Happy Anniversary to my amazing wife, Tami. Best thing, by far, that’s ever happened to me.