This year, 2009, will go down as one of those years that I can look at right now and say this year changed my whole life! Outside of the struggles we experienced during the "downturn/recession/scary-time" during the first part of this year it pales in comparison to the reality check of LIFE that knocked me into a new dimension in my thinking this calendar season & for the remainder of my life.
"Change can be Good..."
Friends:
If you are a guy you have a good amount of associates, a bunch of pals, and a smaller circle of people you call Friends. My circle of Best Friends is so small people wonder if I have any friends at all sometimes... but it's a rare thing to bring someone into that Best Friends circle. For women it's a whole different thing, NO attempt to explain their friend circles!
Heroes:
As a boy you have Heroes, usually your Dad, Grandpa, Brothers, sometimes Athletes, Church Leaders, a Coach, Teacher, maybe a great Scout Master or cool Neighbor. When I first saw a guy named Danny Gans perform in Las Vegas in August 2000 my whole life changed in an instant - my NEW Hero - the Standard to which I hoped to become as a Performer. Obviously my dream never materialized because Gans was the Greatest Performer I've ever seen LIVE, and no one will be able to impersonate him. I never met the man, but I idolized his incredible gifts turned to strengths through hard work and the way he lived his good life. Danny Gans, along with others I never met but tried to emulate (Michael Jackson as a Performer) passed away in 2009 and it has been a pain to my soul.
My Cousin Kyle: 3 months ago my dear cousin, in perfect health and vibrant life, Kyle Redford, fell and hit his head skateboarding and died instantly. In the prime of his young life it was a shock to us all. I had the privilege of sharing special experiences with this young man and a very close bond of friendship. He played his guitar and wrote music in his room, while I was 2,500 miles away doing the same on my piano. We were blood. He had that light that lights up every room and every memory he entered. Such a tragic passing, yet in his hour of ending he changed many lives by doing a simple thing: He put YES on his license for Organ Donation. He gave sight to the blind, a heart to the dying, organs and blood and perfect everything to those in need...throughout the country! He changed lives while he was here and changed more in death by giving LIFE! What a gift my cousin Kyle is as well as being one of my Heroes!
My Best Friend Paul:
Paul Berg was not the first friend I had in his family...it was his incredible wife, Tiffany. She is amazing. Here is a woman that can do, and has done, pretty much everything! We met at an Alzheimer's Association charity event and clicked right away. Next thing I know she and I are writing my book, "Signature Moves" together and she made a major contribution to my career with her outstanding work. And THEN I met Paul...
"The Gift of Change"
Paul changed my whole life. I don't know what else to say, except for the fact that I considered but 2 people my best friends through my whole life to that point, 2 guys I'd grown up with and were friends for life, and Paul somehow weaseled his way into that impenetrable circle in a very short amount of time. I think about 50 different people considered Paul their best friend, too, and that's understandable. The guy just made a difference everywhere he went. His sense of humor, his attitude and perspective, this Peace he had with God, even with this curse of cancer ravaging his body...who could be so positive? Paul was always positive, amidst the greatest of affliction.
Paul pushed me to write better songs, helped me to find my own voice, made me laugh when I should have been his shoulder to cry on. We went on "man dates", out to listen to unknown musicians, to hear his band play in scary bars in cities named after ancient prophets (Lehi), and caused a raucous wherever we went with our quips and comedy. The greatest show I've ever performed was the time he and I shared the stage together - what an honor - he came out and ended my set and I couldn't have asked for that show to end any other way. Sick, energy depleted, time ticking away, there he was - laughing, smiling, joking, loving his family, giving his all - while building a 1965 Shelby Cobra from scratch as a hobby and tuning pianos to support his family, all self taught!
He wrote a few songs before he passed into the next life. Here is something that might change your perspective as it's changed mine. Tumors pressing into his vocal chords the man made one of the great songs ever written on his death bed, and his legacy and memory lives on in all of us. Tonight I watched a video of Paul with his wife and some friends as we sat and laughed, cried, and shook our heads at the answers to life's questions this great man so candidly and philosophically answered with the sun possibly not rising for him the following day... Yes, Paul is my Hero.
2009 has made me change a lot of things. I live my life fuller, I feel relationships deeper, I hug my children tighter. It has been a sad and tough year, one that has seen more tears from these eyes than ever before shed, but that's not a bad thing. Change is Good, Change is a Gift. I believe that and hope you do too. But Change must start within us, in our own hearts, and to close I quote the saint of a man himself, Ghandi:
"We must be the change we wish to see in the world"
Peace Be Unto You My Dear Friends~
jason